we do not see things as they are; we see things as we are.


Inexplicable

Thoughts, Ideas, Experiences and Emotions from Quandaries of the Author

Friday, June 30, 2006

FINAL SCHEADULE FOR 1ST SEMESTER

Monday and Friday:

9:00 - 10:00 - Kursong Rizal
11:00 - 12:00 - Facilities Planning Design
1:30 - 3:00 - Quantitative Techniques in Business
5:00 - 6:00 - Management Information System

Teusday and Thursday

7:00 - 8:30 - Hotel Cost Control and Analysis
8:30 -10:00 - EDP Concept
4:00 - 5:30 - Resort Operation Management

Wednesday

9:00 - 10:00 - Kursong Rizal
11:00 - 12:00 - Facilities Planning Design
5:00 - 6:00 - Management Information System

Saturday

7:00 - 1:00 Catering Management Lab.
2:00 - 3:00 Catering Management Lec.
3:00 - 6:00 Managerial Accounting

Thursday, June 29, 2006

Class President Again?!

Now in 4th year college, it is my 3rd term to be the class president, though we are only few in the class at HRM4-1... i am also the class president of HRM4-2, the faculty decided to combine the two section because of the odd number of students, because 70-75% of the 4th year students are having their internship while, we, the left overs (Joke!) were going to take our internship next semester...

Eventhough only few seniors are left, the weight of being president at this point is very heavy...
there are already many problems interms of scheaduling and allocating of students to the classes...

Some of our classes are dissolve because of low enrollees for that subject because some that should took it in our class, took it to the other class.

Darn! too many more to come!

But on the other hand... its good for my C.V. and more certificates!

Tuesday, June 27, 2006

A Book Of Memories

A Book Of Memories

Hidden in the attic,
all the way upstairs,
is something very special,
that I would like to share.

My hopes,
my dreams,
old photographs,
of good times and bad times that make me laugh.

The joy of a hug,
the thrill of a kiss,
leaves me to remember the pure,
simple bliss.

I cry for the fun,
and giggle for the pain,
I enjoyed the good life I was able to maintain.

The thoughts and wishes,
they all stay with me,
all of these contained in my book of memories.

Life As We Know It



Life as we know it

Synopsis: From the producers of the critically-acclaimed series Freaks and Geeks, Gabe Sachs and Jeff Judah, and the former co-chairman of the ABC Entertainment Television Group, Stuart Bloomberg, comes a one-hour drama series based on British author Melvin Burgess’ breakthrough novel, Doing It. life as we know it defines the spirit of life through the eyes of Dino Whitman, Jonathan Fields and Ben Connor, three hormone-charged teenage boys on the brink of becoming young men. This coming-of-age story is not just about sex – which dominates their every thought – girlfriends and sports, but about how the pressures of growing up affect their attitudes toward the things and people they love, and how these experiences with their families, friends, coaches and teachers shape them into men.

Diet Pills

I really want to get rid my fat-lover-body A.S.A.P.! i'm really desperate on do it, but i don't have time to drop by to any gym and i can't engage myself into diet because i really can't, maybe or should i say i really don't have a self discipline in eating but i can't help it, i can't avoid it specially now i need lots of food to sustain my energy for the whole day, also i have long breaks in school and i don't know what to do during those free time, i just simply go to the nearest eatery or at 7'11! I'm using Zhen de shou, i bought it at SM dasma, it is a small kiosk near the cinema that sells chinese medicines and herbal medicines... well... whatever happens to my health... you would know who to sue! just kidding... its my decision and i know the consequences... i just hope that it will not harm me...

Sunday, June 25, 2006

New Super Man


The New Super Man - Brandon Routh

Bring It On's quoatable Puch Lines

Torrance Shipman: This is isn't a democracy, it's a cheer-ocracy. I'm sorry... I'm overruling you.
Courtney: Darcy thinks she should get captain 'cause her dad pays for everything.
Whitney: He should use some of that money to buy her a clue.
Carver: She puts the "ass" in "massive."
Darcy: You put the "lewd" in "deluded."
Whitney: She puts the "itch" in "bitch."
Courtney: She puts the "whore" in "horrifying."
Sparky: Cheerleaders are dancers who have gone retarded.
Courtney: Why do we all have to diet?
Sparky: Because! In cheerleading we throw people into the air. And fat people don't go very high.
Toros Squad: That's all right. That's OK. You're gonna pump our gas someday.
Courtney: Let's not put the "duh" in dumb!
Courtney: I hate to be predictable, but I don't give a shit!
Whitney: Don't play dumb. We're better at it then you.
Courtney: You're having cheer-sex with him!
Aaron: We'll be reunited at Cal Sate Dominguez Hills! I'll be the experienced sophomore, you'll be the hot new freshman. It'll be just like high school, only better. Dorm rooms.
Football Announcer: Our next defeat is scheduled for next Tuesday.
Missy Pantone: You speak fag?
Les: Oh, fluently.
Jan: Hey ladies, wanna see my spirit stick?
Big Red: You are all fine athletes, thanks in most part... to me.
Darcy: Big Red ran the show, man. We were just flying ignorami, for sobbing out loud.
Jan: You know, all the cheerleaders in the world wouldn't help our football team.
Les: It's just sad. Cheering for them is just plain mean!
Jan: You know everyone just comes to see you ladies anyway.
Missy Pantone: Right, because we're such fine athletes.
Jan: Oh, live with it! You'll be fighting off major oglers, while we defend our sexuality.
Missy Pantone: What is your sexuality?
Les: Well, Jan's straight, and I'm... controversial.
Isis: Hey! Enjoy the show?
Lava: Yes, were the ethnic festivities to your liking today?
Isis: You wanna make it right? Then when you go to Nationals... bring it. Don't slack off because you feel sorry for us. That way, when we beat you, we'll know it's because we're better.
Torrance Shipman: Oh, I'll bring it. Don't worry.
Isis: I never do.
Torrance Shipman: You know, mothers have killed to get their daughters on squads.
Christine Shipman: That mother didn't kill anybody. She hired a hit man.
Courtney: This isn't about cheating. It's about winning. Everyone in favor of winning?
Torrance Shipman: Awesome, oh wow! Like, totally freak me out! I mean, right on! The Toros sure are number one!
Torrance Shipman: Ever been to a cheerleading competition?
Missy Pantone: What do you mean, like a football game?
Torrance Shipman: No, not a football game, those are like practices for us.
Missy Pantone: See, I'm a hardcore gymnast. No way jumping up and down yelling "Go Team Go!" is gonna satisfy me.
Torrance Shipman: Look, we're the shit, the best. We work hard, have fun, and win national championships. I'm offering you a chance to be a part of that.
Aaron: You're a great cheerleader, Tor, and you're cute as hell. Maybe you're just not "captain" material.
Torrance Shipman: So, is that your band or something?
Cliff Pantone: The Clash? Uh... no. It's a British punk band, circa 1977 to 1983, original line up anyway.
Torrance Shipman: How vintage!
Jan: They don't go, we win; once again, we're the best.
Torrance Shipman: I define best as competing against the best there is and beating them. They can't not go.
Aaron: Big Red's a bitch, we all know that! Even she knows that!
Sparky: When you go on a diet, your body eats its stored fat cells, and if you're very lucky, Darcy, your body will eat your ass!
All I Wanna Do
Odette: Up your ziggy with a wa-wa brush!
Miss McVane: Oh, look, this one has three speeds!
Odette Sinclair: They think I'll be safe surrounded by high walls and lesbians. This is the end of the world.
Abby Sawyer: You're all just a bunch of... doodyheads!

Hopeless Romantic


It's more than two years since i had my last serious "love life" relationship, except for several 1 night flirting... duh-uh! i misses beeing In-Love, i'm not lonely with my life, actually i'm very happy with what's going on in it, except for some little problems in my daily life, but i'm much contented with it, but i still feel something is missing... well... i really misses being caress and love by someone i like, i really misses someone who is romantically attached to me... though i'm texting, seeing and even flirting with other guys, still i don't think where connected with each other... i don't know if i'm right or i'm just too picky, i don't know! but... whatever!

Thursday, June 22, 2006

L Magazine


On Cover : John Harren Cuevas

Last March at Puerto Gallera




march 2006, sou, me ea, zu, ami & nick

Mercy Killing? or Cruelty?

whenever i see an animal in pain or in agony i feel the same way, as if they are a part of me, it's like my heart wants to explode ... i want to cry, i want to do something, but i can't, it's beyond my control, how i wish i could help them. Sounds corny but i am stunned whenever i see someone hurting animals... specially dogs, stray... wild... domesticated... or whatever you want to call it... it is still an animal... yes, just an animal for most, but for me... they are an Animal. just an hour ago, in front of our university, a dog was hit and run by a jeep... the poor dog can't move his whole body, so the people drag him to corner... i thought they will aid him or bring him to a vet but because it is just a stray dog, they hit his head and body several times... i feel bad for i can't do anything to help him... they hit him like a pavement that they want to destroy... the helpless dog just cried to death... while the cruel people is smiling while hitting him. My heart almost stopped from beating... a tear almost fell on my cheek, i almost dropped on my knees... all i can do is cursed them! how i wish they will have sufferings like the dog had.

Wednesday, June 21, 2006

THE WAY I AM

They say im tactless..
my tounge is sharp..
-ruthless

They say im insensitive..
i only speak for myself..
-numb..

They say im wicked..
i juDge everyone..evrythin..anyone..
-judgmental..

its me..i dont mean to be mean!
its me..im just bein myself!
its me..its the way i am!

FHM Top Model


New Scheadule For 1st Semester

Monday and Friday:

11:00 - 12:00 - Facilities Planning Design
1:30 - 3:00 - Quantitative Techniques in Business
5:00 - 6:00 - Management Information System
6:00 - 7:00 - Kursong Rizal

Teusday and Thursday

7:00 - 8:30 - Hotel Cost Control and Analysis
8:30 -10:00 - EDP Concept
4:00 - 5:30 - Resort Operation Management

Wednesday
11:00 - 12:00 - Facilities Planning Design
5:00 - 6:00 - Management Information System
6:00 - 7:00 - Kursong Rizal

Saturday
7:00 - 1:00 Catering Management Lab.
2:00 - 3:00 Catering Management Lec.
3:00 - 6:00 Managerial Accounting

Management Information System

been searching for definitions... time is running out... i just hope we could finish this on time, i'm hungry but i'm on a diet... i'm tired but i want to pass... it's like i'm in a situtation where like between life and death... damn! anyone... help me?! please!

Sunday, June 18, 2006

first week of this semester

this week is so very tiring, imagine yourself for a couple of hours nothing to do and nowhere to go! thank God! i'm with Mitch, we spend most of the time together, spending most of our time chit chatting, Chika Minute!, boys hunting, munching any food along the way, looking for a place to hang out, Damn! we are even running out of things to talk about, i guess, but in those 5 days there things that made me laugh so much:

- Mitch broke her shoe hill because where chasing a cutie
- We spent 6 hours in the admin. just to wait for my regform
- I learned that she dont eat tenga, isaw ng baboy, balat ng baboy and atay ng manok
- She'z the apple of the eyes of two varsity!
- Ric sang My Girl for Ms. Barreyro
- He almost jab a freshman coz he thought they are laughing at him

but there are incidents that makes me grumpy!:

- Our section is not yet in stable number that can makes it dissolve
- Our subjects near to be dissolve had reached maximum students in other section
- Our Faculty can't resolve it as of now
- I see everyday people i don't like

well.... there are more weeks to look forward... or not to!

Back-To-School

I'm back to school, now a senior, hope it will be my last year in college.

Here's my Sched fro this semester

Monday and Friday:
11:00 - 12:00 - Facilities Planning Design
1:30 - 3:00 - Quantitative Techniques in Business
5:00 - 6:00 - Management Information System
6:00 - 7:00 - Kursong Rizal

Teusday and Thursday
7:00 - 8:30 - Hotel Cost Control and Analysis
11:30 - 1:00 - Foreign Language 2
4:00 - 5:30 - Resort Operation Management

Wednesday
11:00 - 12:00 - Facilities Planning Design
5:00 - 6:00 - Management Information System
6:00 - 7:00 - Kursong Rizal

Saturday
7:00 - 1:00 Catering Management Lab.
2:00 - 3:00 Catering Management Lec.
3:00 - 6:00 Managerial Accounting

Tuesday, June 13, 2006

Background

i got my background from folded & hung, i used it without their permission... hope they will not get mad :)

Who Let The Dogs Out?!

http://s22.photobucket.com/albums/b319/chrisdavid/?action=view&current=WhoLetTheDogsOut.flv

Chow, Green, Milo, Pepper & Sushi

Training your Puppies

Housetraining Basics
By Kathy Diamond DavisAuthor and Trainer

1) Keep the dog in a "safe place" when you are not home or are asleep. A crate just large enough that he can lie down and stand fully erect is usually ideal for this. A small room with a baby-gate rather than a closed door will also work, provided this "safe place" is a place where the particular dog will not use the bathroom. You are trying to help the dog develop control.
2) When you are able to watch the pup, keep pup always in the same room with you. If you see pup start to have an accident, say "No, Outside" at the very same time you scoop up the puppy and run outside. For a dog you cannot carry, use a leash. No punishment, EVER. That doesn't work for housetraining, and can cause nasty complications.
3) When you are outside in the right place for pup to relieve, use a cue phrase, such as "Go Potty." This is only used at the time and the place where you want pup to do it now. Never say it before you take the puppy outside. While you're still in the house, only use the word "Outside."
4) When pup relieves outside, praise sincerely. If pup likes a treat, you might have some hidden on your person, and whip one out to give at that moment. If pup likes to play outside, allow a little playtime after pup relieves. If your puppy wants to get right back inside, reward the pup by going right back inside.
5) Every time pup has an accident in the house, it confuses the puppy. Therefore, you need to supervise or confine your pup 100% of the time. If necessary to keep you watching the puppy, sometimes you can fasten yourself to the puppy with a leash at your waist.
6) If you find an accident the puppy has had in the house that you did not see happen, that is more your mistake than the puppy's! Whatever you do, never punish your dog for this.
7) Before using any other cleaning agents, treat the spot deeply and thoroughly with a bacterial enzyme odor eliminator product such as Nature's Miracle. Nothing else has been proven to really work on getting rid of the scent. If you don't get rid of the scent, it will draw the dog's instincts to use the spot again. Other cleaning products used before the bacterial enzyme product can cause it to be unable to work. They can literally kill the little bacteria before they have a chance to deal with the odor.
8) Make sure your puppy is on a top-quality dog food, and is free of intestinal parasites such as roundworms, hookworms, coccidia, giardia. Any of these things can sabotage housetraining efforts. If the puppy ever seems to be urinating abnormally often, take a urine specimen to the veterinarian for analysis.
9) Schedule food and water. Give water whenever you can, but not in the crate, and not right before the dog is going to have to wait in the crate for some time. Modify this, of course, if the vet recommends it for your puppy or your situation. Feed at least twice a day, the best dog food you can get (cheap dog foods cause housetraining problems, as well as many other problems), and keep the food to a careful schedule. Scheduled food going IN leads to scheduled poop coming OUT, and that is very important for housetraining.
10) When you are at home and awake, take the pup outside about once per hour. As time goes by, you will be able to tell just how often your dog needs to go. During housetraining, you must go with the puppy, not put your puppy outside without you. That way you are there to praise, and you also know when the puppy relieved, and when the puppy did not relieve.
11) Puppies generally are not mature enough for full bladder and bowel control until at least 16 weeks of age.
12) With a small dog, you also have the problem that the dog sees the house as very large. Relieving off in a corner of a quiet room can seem to the small dog's instincts to be far enough away from the pack. A larger dog will more naturally prefer to go outside. That's one reason this process can take longer with small dogs. Small male dogs may be stimulated by instincts to mark territory in your house, while larger male dogs would rather mark a larger territory, outside the house. It can be helpful to expand your small dog's freedom in the house more slowly. Remember, any mistakes that you do not see and correct by taking the dog outside right then will confuse your dog, and make housetraining take longer.
13) One thing that frequently confuses people is that the dog can hold it for 8 hours during the night or when they are away at work. That makes them think 8 hours is reasonable to ask of the dog at other times, too. However, during sleep, the body quiets the bladder and bowels, to allow this longer period of time. When you're gone, the dog likely sleeps a lot, too, since dogs sleep about 14 hours a day. When the body has had to hold it like this, then it has to catch up. That makes going out every hour even more important. Take your puppy out at least twice in the morning before you leave for work, too.
14) Some spayed female dogs will develop a problem as they age with bladder incontinence. This is not a housetraining problem, and will normally be noticed as loss of urine where the dog is resting--the dog may not even be aware when it happens. This problem is easily controlled with inexpensive medication from your veterinarian. The medication may need a bit of adjustment, and there is more than one type of medication that works, so be sure to keep working with the vet until the right medication at the right dosage is found. Then, no more accidents!
15) Most every dog can be housetrained, if you do it right. However, some take longer than others. If you are minimizing the accidents by providing the proper supervision, and if you are treating any accident spots correctly, having a dog who takes longer to housetrain will not result in your having a smelly house or a ruined carpet.
http://www.veterinarypartner.com/Content.plx?P=A&A=1089&S=1&SourceID=47
POTTY TRAINING BASICS
or, Pees and Poos happen!
Common Questions...
"What about paper-training?"
The old method of paper training can still be effective, however it adds unnecessary time and mess to the whole picture. Owners will have MUCH more cleanup and mess and smell with papers and they will STILL have to use the papers to transition puppy to the outside.
"My puppy goes outside, then comes in and poops on the floor...!"
You, as the owner/trainer, are at fault here. You are missing the two BIG keys in successful potty training: 1. You MUST accompany your puppy outside WITH a leash on to supervise elimination and 2. Freedom in the house is only earned by appropriate elimination outside. No pees or poos - NO FREEDOM, and puppy goes back in his crate. Next, the owner checks again in a time frame of 20 minutes to an hour and takes puppy outside on the LEASH for another opportunity to eliminate appropriately and earn freedom.
"I stand at the door and watch while my puppy goes potty outside. When he is finished and comes back in, he gets a treat. Why do I have to go out with my puppy?"
Your puppy is getting his treat for coming back into the house, NOT for appropriate elimination. Praise MUST happen DURING elimination to make the connection in puppy's mind. Some dogs will run outside and run back in without eliminating because they know they'll get a treat. This can also encourage frequent demands to go out - just so they can get a treat when they come in!
"I leave my puppy outside to play for an hour or more, then I bring him in and he eliminates. Why couldn't he just do it while he was outside?"
Well, he probably DID eliminate when he first went out, but he didn't have to go later, and he certainly doesn't have the human capacity to think "Well, my owner is probably going to take me inside soon, so I'd better get my business done while I'm outside!" YOU need to remind a puppy who has been outside for a while to "Go Potty!".
"When will I know if my dog is housebroken?"
Appropriate elimination FIRST happens primarily because we, as owners, control it. We are working, when we potty train, to establish a HABIT, and that will usually take two to three months, depending on how consistent and persistent you are as the owner/trainer. Here are some indications your dog/puppy understands the program: 1. "Accidents" in the house and/or crate have decreased during the training period to none or almost none. 2. When you use your commands for elimination, your puppy responds by eliminating. 3. Your puppy starts to "ask" to go outside by barking, running to the door, staring at you, or in some other way. 4. The freedom you give your puppy is mostly "accident" free.
"My puppy wakes me up at 3AM EVERY NIGHT! I take him out, he pees and then wants to play. I play with him for a while and put him back in his crate where he cries for some time before he settles down. How do I break him of this?"
Nighttime needs should diminish quickly as the puppy gets older. At first, you may need to get up 2-3 times nightly for a 7-week-old pup. That frequency should quickly reduce to once a night for a 9-week-old pup. When a puppy cries in the night, you DO have to check on him - it's the only way he has to tell you there is a problem. YOU will soon learn which cries are "fussing" and which indicate a real need. Remember when I said you are working to establish a HABIT when potty training? Well, if you get up during the night to take puppy out and then play with him, you are establishing a nighttime play routine habit! Any nighttime trips outside should be all "business only": outside then back in the crate - PERIOD! Temporarily removing access to water by 7 or 8 p.m. will also help.
Special problems...
Dogs or puppies purchased from a pet shop or other place where they were always kept in a small cage.
These dogs never had a choice and HAD to eliminate where they lived. Owners must devote extra time to take such dogs outside more frequently in order to get elimination outside rather than in the crate. Elaborate praise when they "go" is essential so they learn that life is better all around when they eliminate outside. Elimination in the crate should be ignored and just cleaned up at first - with no correction or harsh words. Later, as the dog starts to understand "going outside" a little better, the same corrections used when your dog has an accident on the floor (see "Accidents" above) can be used for crate soiling. Training these dogs takes a lot of patience and time.
About small breeds and "Sneaking"
Some people say that small breeds can be difficult, if not impossible to potty train. This is NOT because they are stupid - actually they are rather smart; smart enough to sneak to out of the way places to make their deposits instead of asking to go outside. This just requires MORE vigilance on the owner's part, and LESS freedom for the dog. If necessary, the owner needs to attach the other end of the leash the dog is dragging to their belt loop to keep closer track of the sneak!
Submissive Urination
"When I come home from work and let my dog out of her crate, she urinates all over when I'm greeting her. I yell at her and she pees more! Why does she DO that?"
What you dog is doing is called submissive urination. It is NOT a housebreaking problem. She is telling you that she recognizes that you are the leader. When you yell at her, she pees more to say "Yes, I KNOW that you are alpha!" Usually submissive urination resolved by 2 years of age, but Bailey, my Golden Retriever, sometimes still does it at 9 years.
Things you can do to deter submissive urination:
1. DO NOT bend over the top of the dog, especially when greeting. That is a dominant position. 2. For some reason, sweet, happy talk makes dogs urinate - so happy greetings with a lot of conversation should be avoided. 3. DO NOT pet your dog to greet her - the best thing to do when greeting a submissive urinator is to fold your arms across your chest, turn and ignore, but encourage your dog to go outside right away. Praise when she urinates outside, and then you should be able to greet.4. When visitors come over, have them greet your dog (on leash) outside on the porch or grass to avoid messes in the house. 5. DO NOT yell at your dog for being "bad" - this isn't being "bad" at all! It is actually dog language affirming your leadership.
Spitefulness?"When I leave the house, my dog frequently leaves me "presents" of stool and/or urine. I know he hates me to leave, and I'm sure he's doing it out of spite."
Dogs by nature are not spiteful animals. That is too much of a human emotion and too much reasoning: "If she leaves, then I'm going to poop on the floor because I know she HATES that! That'll teach her to leave me here alone!"
Usually, if there is an "accident" when the owner is gone these are usually the real reasons.
· I forgot to do my business outside (this is where my own dogs fit in!)
· I'm really not reliably potty trained and I don't completely understand the concept.
· I waited by the door to go outside but I couldn't get out and I just couldn't wait any longer!
· You left me all alone in this house! This is a BIG job, and we usually watch over the house together as a pack. This is too stressful for me. I'm so stressed I have to poop!
· I have too much freedom - and too soon - without supervision.
If you come home to "accidents", you need to consider these steps:
1. Backtrack on potty training - no matter what your dog's age. (We just had a brain glitch and need a refresher course) 2. Reduce the space of freedom - either with a crate, baby gates or a room. 3. Back to outside supervised potty breaks - with leash on so praise can be used at the right time. 4. Make sure there is no physical cause for the problem (intestinal parasites, urinary tract infection, etc.)
Questions to ask yourself if you are having problems...
· Am I taking the dog out enough?
· Do I know every time he goes?
· Does he have too much freedom in the house?
· Am I watching him carefully when he is free in the house?
· Is there any physical reason (intestinal parasites, urinary tract infection, etc.)?
· Am I trying to move things along faster than this dog is able to learn - therefore skipping steps so the entire picture is unclear to my dog?
· Am I consistently praising for appropriate behavior so he gets the idea?
Pam Young, LVT
http://www.ddc.com/petplace/dogtraining/potty.html

It is an undeniable fact that puppies need to eliminate. The frustrating part is the communication barrier as well as the lack of understanding about where and when it is appropriate to eliminate. Puppies come to us with the simple motto: "If I have to, then I'll do it." This pertains to eating, sleeping (ever see a pup fall over asleep in mid-play?), activity, exploration AND elimination! Puppies do not understand anything more than that. It is up to us to establish a bridge of understanding if they are to live with us harmoniously. We are the ones with all the requirements, not them! They'd be just as happy to take care of their needs the way they already know.
The most successful potty training methods consist of four key elements:
1. Confinement 2. Training 3. Timing 4. Praise
This article will discuss them all and also answer common housebreaking questions and address some special cases.
Confinement
Puppies (or dogs who don't yet understand where it is appropriate to eliminate) need to be confined in order to facilitate the easiest potty training. The BEST and most effective place to confine is in a crate or cage (more about crates in an upcoming article). At this point (new introduction to potty training) don't leave anything on the bottom of the crate (blanket, newspaper, etc.). Puppy will make a project out of destroying it. Most dogs do NOT want to eliminate where they live, therefore the crate needs to be just large enough for puppy to turn around and lay down. Anything larger will encourage a puppy to eliminate at one end and sleep in the other. For those puppies who will grow quite a bit larger, use a crate that is sized for an adult and partition it to a smaller size using a homemade insert or a crate insert made by the crate company to fit your crate.
Training and Praise
When I teach a new dog (or puppy) where to eliminate, I ALWAYS use a leash. Leashes keep your dog close to you, where you can supervise and control everything that happens. Puppies, especially, are easily distracted. A blowing leaf, new flower, stick, another animal - all can take a puppy's mind off the matter at hand. If you are near the puppy (or dog) with the leash in hand, a gentle tug will redirect away from the curiosity. Leashes are also good to help teach an AREA to eliminate (behind the garage, etc.). With a leash, you just take the dog there every time.
I also teach words for elimination. This way, when the puppy understands what the words mean, he will understand WHAT I want as well as WHEN I want it to happen. My words are "go potty" for urination and "go poop" for defecation. Your choice can be ANY word or phrase you want to use consistently (such as, "hurry up", "do your business", "get busy", "let's go", "tinkles", etc.). Remember when you choose your word or phrase that you will be repeating it A LOT!
As I take my dog outside on a leash, I start to teach him the word "OUTSIDE". "Let's go OUTSIDE!". "Do you have to go "OUTSIDE"? "OUTSIDE! OUTSIDE!" In time, the dog will learn that the word OUTSIDE is associated with elimination. Eventually you will be able to ask the dog "do you have to go OUTSIDE?" and get a response like barking, running to the door or tail wagging.
Using the Leash & Words to Teach
A slip-type leash is quick and easy to slip on the puppy to take him outside. If the puppy isn't used to the leash yet, slip the leash on and carry the puppy from his crate to outside, saying the entire time "Do you want to go outside? Let's go outside! Outside! Outside! Yay! Outside!". Your emphasis should be on the word "OUTSIDE". Once outside, set puppy down and change your mantra to your word/phrase "Go Potty! Go Potty! Let's Go Potty!". Let puppy sniff and move around a little, but keep him in a general area. Each time he gets distracted (leaf, squirrel, etc.) give the leash a tug and repeat "Go Potty!". The command is generally not said in a firm or angry way and not in a soft or pleading way either - it is usually said in an encouraging tone. When elimination occurs, use a happy tone and repeat "GOOD Go Potty! Yay! Go Potty!". I prefer to use WORDS ONLY to reinforce elimination, because petting or treats can interrupt the act. Verbal praise needs to happen DURING the act, not after! Usually dogs will urinate first, then defecate. You need to become familiar with your dog's habits so you can wait for defecation and use a command for it (i.e.; "more potty", "go poop", etc.).
Did you know?? Contrary to popular belief, winter is usually the EASIEST time to potty train. Nobody wants to spend much time outside, especially puppy, and distractions are at a minimum.
More on word training and tone of voice More about puppy's first collar and leash
Timing
Puppies (and dogs) earn freedom by eliminating appropriately. The best time for a puppy to be out of his crate is AFTER eliminating appropriately outside. This free time will still need to be strictly supervised, so any inclination toward inappropriate elimination can be immediately addressed. Baby gates are great for limiting a puppy's area of freedom. A short, inexpensive leash (4ft or so) attached to the puppy's collar (ALWAYS SUPERVISED, of course) works well and enables the owner to catch a quick puppy without grabbing for him (which, ultimately, can create a fearful dog). This works well when he needs to be corrected for inappropriate behaviors like chewing, eating things, digging or eliminating indoors.
The BEST rule of thumb is to ANTICIPATE the need!
As a general rule, the length of time a puppy can be left confined in his create without going outside is roughly equal to his age in months: 2 months old = 2 hours of confinement without a potty break 3 months old = 3 hours of confinement without a potty break 4 months old = 4 hours of confinement without a potty break etc. - up to about 6 - 8 months of age.
ANY time there is a change in activity, such as after waking, playing, or eating, puppy MUST be taken outside!
Your puppy will also give certain indications each time he needs to eliminate: abrupt stop of play, circling, sniffing, running out of the room, a "look" on his face. You will eventually become familiar with these "warning signs".
Accidents
All is not lost if puppy eliminates in the house or in his crate! If you catch him in the act, make an abrupt noise (clap hands, say Angh Angh) and use a firm low voice to illustrate your displeasure. "Bad dog! Bad! Outside to do this!" (voice starts to get friendlier now) "Let's go OUTSIDE! Outside!" (now in normal command voice) "Go Potty. GOOD DOG go potty!" Use a lot of cheerful praise if he finishes outside.
Remember, you MUST catch puppy IN THE ACT of inappropriate elimination to facilitate an effective lesson. Rubbing his nose in "it" afterward (even by just a few moments) only teaches him that "doo doo" in the house gets him in trouble. "Oh no", you say, "my dog KNOWS!". Well, not really. A behaviorist once told me he illustrated this to a skeptical client by sending the client out of the house while he collected stool from the backyard and set it in the middle of the living room. The client was invited back into the house and the dog ran and hid! Here's another example of how dogs think: Puppy poops where he shouldn't and wanders into another room to quietly chew a bone. The owner finds the poop, locates the puppy and drags him to the mess and stuffs his nose in it. Puppy wonders, "I was off chewing my bone and now I'm getting my nose shoved into this mess! I just don't get it! I get punished for chewing my bone?"
TIMING...of catching the puppy in the act in order to correct and teach...of PRAISE for appropriate elimination...is everything and CONSISTENCY is the key! Proper behavior must be praised EVERY TIME you give a command and it is followed. I still do it for Bailey, and she is 9 years old!
One last thought to ponder while dealing with the frustrations of potty training: a puppy that has NEVER eliminated in the house and been CAUGHT and CORRECTED has not yet learned that it is wrong. There MUST be "accidents" in order for REAL learning to take place!
Common Questions...
"What about paper-training?"
The old method of paper training can still be effective, however it adds unnecessary time and mess to the whole picture. Owners will have MUCH more cleanup and mess and smell with papers and they will STILL have to use the papers to transition puppy to the outside.
"My puppy goes outside, then comes in and poops on the floor...!"
You, as the owner/trainer, are at fault here. You are missing the two BIG keys in successful potty training: 1. You MUST accompany your puppy outside WITH a leash on to supervise elimination and 2. Freedom in the house is only earned by appropriate elimination outside. No pees or poos - NO FREEDOM, and puppy goes back in his crate. Next, the owner checks again in a time frame of 20 minutes to an hour and takes puppy outside on the LEASH for another opportunity to eliminate appropriately and earn freedom.
"I stand at the door and watch while my puppy goes potty outside. When he is finished and comes back in, he gets a treat. Why do I have to go out with my puppy?"
Your puppy is getting his treat for coming back into the house, NOT for appropriate elimination. Praise MUST happen DURING elimination to make the connection in puppy's mind. Some dogs will run outside and run back in without eliminating because they know they'll get a treat. This can also encourage frequent demands to go out - just so they can get a treat when they come in!
"I leave my puppy outside to play for an hour or more, then I bring him in and he eliminates. Why couldn't he just do it while he was outside?"
Well, he probably DID eliminate when he first went out, but he didn't have to go later, and he certainly doesn't have the human capacity to think "Well, my owner is probably going to take me inside soon, so I'd better get my business done while I'm outside!" YOU need to remind a puppy who has been outside for a while to "Go Potty!".
"When will I know if my dog is housebroken?"
Appropriate elimination FIRST happens primarily because we, as owners, control it. We are working, when we potty train, to establish a HABIT, and that will usually take two to three months, depending on how consistent and persistent you are as the owner/trainer. Here are some indications your dog/puppy understands the program: 1. "Accidents" in the house and/or crate have decreased during the training period to none or almost none. 2. When you use your commands for elimination, your puppy responds by eliminating. 3. Your puppy starts to "ask" to go outside by barking, running to the door, staring at you, or in some other way. 4. The freedom you give your puppy is mostly "accident" free.
"My puppy wakes me up at 3AM EVERY NIGHT! I take him out, he pees and then wants to play. I play with him for a while and put him back in his crate where he cries for some time before he settles down. How do I break him of this?"
Nighttime needs should diminish quickly as the puppy gets older. At first, you may need to get up 2-3 times nightly for a 7-week-old pup. That frequency should quickly reduce to once a night for a 9-week-old pup. When a puppy cries in the night, you DO have to check on him - it's the only way he has to tell you there is a problem. YOU will soon learn which cries are "fussing" and which indicate a real need. Remember when I said you are working to establish a HABIT when potty training? Well, if you get up during the night to take puppy out and then play with him, you are establishing a nighttime play routine habit! Any nighttime trips outside should be all "business only": outside then back in the crate - PERIOD! Temporarily removing access to water by 7 or 8 p.m. will also help.
Special problems...
Dogs or puppies purchased from a pet shop or other place where they were always kept in a small cage.
These dogs never had a choice and HAD to eliminate where they lived. Owners must devote extra time to take such dogs outside more frequently in order to get elimination outside rather than in the crate. Elaborate praise when they "go" is essential so they learn that life is better all around when they eliminate outside. Elimination in the crate should be ignored and just cleaned up at first - with no correction or harsh words. Later, as the dog starts to understand "going outside" a little better, the same corrections used when your dog has an accident on the floor (see "Accidents" above) can be used for crate soiling. Training these dogs takes a lot of patience and time.
About small breeds and "Sneaking"
Some people say that small breeds can be difficult, if not impossible to potty train. This is NOT because they are stupid - actually they are rather smart; smart enough to sneak to out of the way places to make their deposits instead of asking to go outside. This just requires MORE vigilance on the owner's part, and LESS freedom for the dog. If necessary, the owner needs to attach the other end of the leash the dog is dragging to their belt loop to keep closer track of the sneak!
Submissive Urination
"When I come home from work and let my dog out of her crate, she urinates all over when I'm greeting her. I yell at her and she pees more! Why does she DO that?"
What you dog is doing is called submissive urination. It is NOT a housebreaking problem. She is telling you that she recognizes that you are the leader. When you yell at her, she pees more to say "Yes, I KNOW that you are alpha!" Usually submissive urination resolved by 2 years of age, but Bailey, my Golden Retriever, sometimes still does it at 9 years.
Things you can do to deter submissive urination:
1. DO NOT bend over the top of the dog, especially when greeting. That is a dominant position. 2. For some reason, sweet, happy talk makes dogs urinate - so happy greetings with a lot of conversation should be avoided. 3. DO NOT pet your dog to greet her - the best thing to do when greeting a submissive urinator is to fold your arms across your chest, turn and ignore, but encourage your dog to go outside right away. Praise when she urinates outside, and then you should be able to greet.4. When visitors come over, have them greet your dog (on leash) outside on the porch or grass to avoid messes in the house. 5. DO NOT yell at your dog for being "bad" - this isn't being "bad" at all! It is actually dog language affirming your leadership.
Spitefulness?"When I leave the house, my dog frequently leaves me "presents" of stool and/or urine. I know he hates me to leave, and I'm sure he's doing it out of spite."
Dogs by nature are not spiteful animals. That is too much of a human emotion and too much reasoning: "If she leaves, then I'm going to poop on the floor because I know she HATES that! That'll teach her to leave me here alone!"
Usually, if there is an "accident" when the owner is gone these are usually the real reasons.
· I forgot to do my business outside (this is where my own dogs fit in!)
· I'm really not reliably potty trained and I don't completely understand the concept.
· I waited by the door to go outside but I couldn't get out and I just couldn't wait any longer!
· You left me all alone in this house! This is a BIG job, and we usually watch over the house together as a pack. This is too stressful for me. I'm so stressed I have to poop!
· I have too much freedom - and too soon - without supervision.
If you come home to "accidents", you need to consider these steps:
1. Backtrack on potty training - no matter what your dog's age. (We just had a brain glitch and need a refresher course) 2. Reduce the space of freedom - either with a crate, baby gates or a room. 3. Back to outside supervised potty breaks - with leash on so praise can be used at the right time. 4. Make sure there is no physical cause for the problem (intestinal parasites, urinary tract infection, etc.)
Questions to ask yourself if you are having problems...
· Am I taking the dog out enough?
· Do I know every time he goes?
· Does he have too much freedom in the house?
· Am I watching him carefully when he is free in the house?
· Is there any physical reason (intestinal parasites, urinary tract infection, etc.)?
· Am I trying to move things along faster than this dog is able to learn - therefore skipping steps so the entire picture is unclear to my dog?
· Am I consistently praising for appropriate behavior so he gets the idea?
Pam Young, LVT
http://www.ddc.com/petplace/dogtraining/potty.html












Five Easy P's of Puppy Potty TrainingPrediction: Learn to look for the signs... walking around with nose to the floor, just finished eating, just woke up, just finished playing, any other pattern you might notice.Place: Pick a place where you want puppy to go and always take him/her therePersistence: Do it regularly, without fail. Yes it might be too hot, too cold, too windy, too wet, too early, too late... these are all LAME EXCUSES!Patience: Wait until puppy has done her/his stuff... it may take a while. Relax, breathe some fresh air... it'll do you some good. Praise: When puppy has done her/his stuff, let puppy know s/he is the best puppy that ever lived... go a little crazy! Puppy won't laugh at you for acting foolish, and it'll really help puppy understand what you want. And remember, puppy's great goal in life is to make you happy!That's it! 5 easy P's! Prediction, place, persistence, patience and praise.Nosenuzzles ~'o'~((()))~~~ ( woof-woof)Scarlett(Mrs Dee) and her Maine-Agerie Our shih-tzu4u group:shihtzu4u@yahoogroups.com-=*=- -=*=- -=*=- -=*=- -=*=- -=*=- -=*=- -=*=- -=*=- -=*=- "I try to take one day at a time, but sometimes several days attack me at once." ~*~"You enter into a certain amount of madness when you marry aperson with pets." --Nora Ephron ~*~ When faced with a mountain I will not quit. I will keep on striving until I climb over, find a pass through, tunnel underneath, or turn the mountain into a gold mine with God's help." ~*~"Lord , Keep Your Arm Around my Shoulder and Your Hand Over My Mouth" ~*~ø¤º°`°º¤ø,¸¸,ø¤º°`°º¤ø,¸¸,ø¤º°`°º¤ø,¸¸,ø¤º°`°º
Crate Training in Brief
Training your puppy to use a crate is not cruel and unusual punishment! Quite the contrary. When puppy is crate trained properly before long he or she will consider the crate as a "den" and go their automatically when they are tired or just want to be alone.
A few basic rules of thumb:
A crate should never be used as punishment.
A puppy should never be confined to a crate for longer than 2 or 3 hours when you are not home.
If you purchase a large crate that will fit your puppy when it is full grown, then you should partition off part of it so that puppy doesn't have too much room. If the crate is too large, puppy will use it to go potty.
Move the crate from room to room with you and allow puppy to sleep in it's crate in your bedroom at night. This gives them a sense of security and they will settle down much more quickly knowing you are right there.
A key ingredient in crate training is to make it fun for the puppy. Do this by putting some treats in the crate and letting puppy find them. Toss the treat into the crate and when puppy goes in to get it, praise GOOD DOG....GOOD PUPPY! Once in a while when puppy goes into crate to retrieve the treat, close the door for a few minutes. If puppy is nice and quiet say GOOD PUPPY. However, if puppy is making a ruckus - IGNORE. When puppy settles down, say GOOD PUPPY and then open the crate door.
Remember...make this fun. It should never be a form of punishment!
Crate training is a wonderful way to help you housebreak your puppy. Puppies will avoid using their "den" as a place to go potty. Immediately upon taking puppy out of the crate bring it outside to relieve itself.....DO NOT stop to play with it first! Once puppy has relieved itself outside give lots of praise! Praise so much that your neighbors will think you have lost your mind!!! As soon as you feel confident that puppy is "empty" you can then return to the house and have some play time or whatever.
Remember....puppies have next to no bladder or bowel control. What goes in one end very quickly comes out the other. So when you feed them, immediately take them out to go potty and when they go LOTS OF PRAISE. When you take them out to potty use the same phrase each time. Something like "potty" or "hurry" works well.
As I mentioned above, you cannot restrict a puppy to a crate for more than 2 or 3 hours at a time when you are not with them. If you work away from home all day (as most people do) you could try to enlist a neighbor to come and take puppy out several times a day. There are also pet walkers you could hire to do this.
Working people should consider using an X-Pen in addition to a crate for during the day. The X-Pen can be set up in say the kitchen with the crate (with door open) in one corner of the pen. If no one will be taking puppy out during the day you will have to "paper train" in part of the X-Pen. Puppy then will have a larger area to exercise in and can still use his/her crate for taking naps.
Puppies should not be trusted to have free run of your home. There are too many things they can get into -- things that can hurt them and destroy your property at the same time. When you are busy you can either crate the puppy or tether it's leash to you so that you are constantly aware of what puppy is doing. Use constant commands and phrases such as "settle down" or "easy" when puppy is acting too wild.
If you are busy and decided to crate puppy, try putting the crate in the same room with you. That way puppy doesn't feel like it's being punished and can keep an eye on you at the same time.
At bedtime put puppy's crate in the bedroom with you. Puppies that are allowed to sleep with their humans tend to settle down much more quickly. Plus...when puppy needs to go potty in the middle of the night you will be able to hear their call.
Crate training has many additional benefits. If you plan on taking your puppy/dog with you on vacations being able to tell a hotel/motel innkeeper that your dog will be in it's crate when you are not in the room is a big plus!
http://www.golden-retriever.com/crate.html

POTTY TRAINING BASICS
or, Pees and Poos happen!
Common Questions...
"What about paper-training?"
The old method of paper training can still be effective, however it adds unnecessary time and mess to the whole picture. Owners will have MUCH more cleanup and mess and smell with papers and they will STILL have to use the papers to transition puppy to the outside.
"My puppy goes outside, then comes in and poops on the floor...!"
You, as the owner/trainer, are at fault here. You are missing the two BIG keys in successful potty training: 1. You MUST accompany your puppy outside WITH a leash on to supervise elimination and 2. Freedom in the house is only earned by appropriate elimination outside. No pees or poos - NO FREEDOM, and puppy goes back in his crate. Next, the owner checks again in a time frame of 20 minutes to an hour and takes puppy outside on the LEASH for another opportunity to eliminate appropriately and earn freedom.
"I stand at the door and watch while my puppy goes potty outside. When he is finished and comes back in, he gets a treat. Why do I have to go out with my puppy?"
Your puppy is getting his treat for coming back into the house, NOT for appropriate elimination. Praise MUST happen DURING elimination to make the connection in puppy's mind. Some dogs will run outside and run back in without eliminating because they know they'll get a treat. This can also encourage frequent demands to go out - just so they can get a treat when they come in!
"I leave my puppy outside to play for an hour or more, then I bring him in and he eliminates. Why couldn't he just do it while he was outside?"
Well, he probably DID eliminate when he first went out, but he didn't have to go later, and he certainly doesn't have the human capacity to think "Well, my owner is probably going to take me inside soon, so I'd better get my business done while I'm outside!" YOU need to remind a puppy who has been outside for a while to "Go Potty!".
"When will I know if my dog is housebroken?"
Appropriate elimination FIRST happens primarily because we, as owners, control it. We are working, when we potty train, to establish a HABIT, and that will usually take two to three months, depending on how consistent and persistent you are as the owner/trainer. Here are some indications your dog/puppy understands the program: 1. "Accidents" in the house and/or crate have decreased during the training period to none or almost none. 2. When you use your commands for elimination, your puppy responds by eliminating. 3. Your puppy starts to "ask" to go outside by barking, running to the door, staring at you, or in some other way. 4. The freedom you give your puppy is mostly "accident" free.
"My puppy wakes me up at 3AM EVERY NIGHT! I take him out, he pees and then wants to play. I play with him for a while and put him back in his crate where he cries for some time before he settles down. How do I break him of this?"
Nighttime needs should diminish quickly as the puppy gets older. At first, you may need to get up 2-3 times nightly for a 7-week-old pup. That frequency should quickly reduce to once a night for a 9-week-old pup. When a puppy cries in the night, you DO have to check on him - it's the only way he has to tell you there is a problem. YOU will soon learn which cries are "fussing" and which indicate a real need. Remember when I said you are working to establish a HABIT when potty training? Well, if you get up during the night to take puppy out and then play with him, you are establishing a nighttime play routine habit! Any nighttime trips outside should be all "business only": outside then back in the crate - PERIOD! Temporarily removing access to water by 7 or 8 p.m. will also help.
Special problems...
Dogs or puppies purchased from a pet shop or other place where they were always kept in a small cage.
These dogs never had a choice and HAD to eliminate where they lived. Owners must devote extra time to take such dogs outside more frequently in order to get elimination outside rather than in the crate. Elaborate praise when they "go" is essential so they learn that life is better all around when they eliminate outside. Elimination in the crate should be ignored and just cleaned up at first - with no correction or harsh words. Later, as the dog starts to understand "going outside" a little better, the same corrections used when your dog has an accident on the floor (see "Accidents" above) can be used for crate soiling. Training these dogs takes a lot of patience and time.
About small breeds and "Sneaking"
Some people say that small breeds can be difficult, if not impossible to potty train. This is NOT because they are stupid - actually they are rather smart; smart enough to sneak to out of the way places to make their deposits instead of asking to go outside. This just requires MORE vigilance on the owner's part, and LESS freedom for the dog. If necessary, the owner needs to attach the other end of the leash the dog is dragging to their belt loop to keep closer track of the sneak!
Submissive Urination
"When I come home from work and let my dog out of her crate, she urinates all over when I'm greeting her. I yell at her and she pees more! Why does she DO that?"
What you dog is doing is called submissive urination. It is NOT a housebreaking problem. She is telling you that she recognizes that you are the leader. When you yell at her, she pees more to say "Yes, I KNOW that you are alpha!" Usually submissive urination resolved by 2 years of age, but Bailey, my Golden Retriever, sometimes still does it at 9 years.
Things you can do to deter submissive urination:
1. DO NOT bend over the top of the dog, especially when greeting. That is a dominant position. 2. For some reason, sweet, happy talk makes dogs urinate - so happy greetings with a lot of conversation should be avoided. 3. DO NOT pet your dog to greet her - the best thing to do when greeting a submissive urinator is to fold your arms across your chest, turn and ignore, but encourage your dog to go outside right away. Praise when she urinates outside, and then you should be able to greet.4. When visitors come over, have them greet your dog (on leash) outside on the porch or grass to avoid messes in the house. 5. DO NOT yell at your dog for being "bad" - this isn't being "bad" at all! It is actually dog language affirming your leadership.
Spitefulness?"When I leave the house, my dog frequently leaves me "presents" of stool and/or urine. I know he hates me to leave, and I'm sure he's doing it out of spite."
Dogs by nature are not spiteful animals. That is too much of a human emotion and too much reasoning: "If she leaves, then I'm going to poop on the floor because I know she HATES that! That'll teach her to leave me here alone!"
Usually, if there is an "accident" when the owner is gone these are usually the real reasons.
· I forgot to do my business outside (this is where my own dogs fit in!)
· I'm really not reliably potty trained and I don't completely understand the concept.
· I waited by the door to go outside but I couldn't get out and I just couldn't wait any longer!
· You left me all alone in this house! This is a BIG job, and we usually watch over the house together as a pack. This is too stressful for me. I'm so stressed I have to poop!
· I have too much freedom - and too soon - without supervision.
If you come home to "accidents", you need to consider these steps:
1. Backtrack on potty training - no matter what your dog's age. (We just had a brain glitch and need a refresher course) 2. Reduce the space of freedom - either with a crate, baby gates or a room. 3. Back to outside supervised potty breaks - with leash on so praise can be used at the right time. 4. Make sure there is no physical cause for the problem (intestinal parasites, urinary tract infection, etc.)
Questions to ask yourself if you are having problems...
· Am I taking the dog out enough?
· Do I know every time he goes?
· Does he have too much freedom in the house?
· Am I watching him carefully when he is free in the house?
· Is there any physical reason (intestinal parasites, urinary tract infection, etc.)?
· Am I trying to move things along faster than this dog is able to learn - therefore skipping steps so the entire picture is unclear to my dog?
· Am I consistently praising for appropriate behavior so he gets the idea?
Pam Young, LVT
http://www.ddc.com/petplace/dogtraining/potty.html

Charmed

today is the finale episode of charmed in the philippines

Monday, June 12, 2006

WOLVERINE

Friday, June 09, 2006

Fallen Not Broken

Fallen Not Broken

The Awakening

The Awakening
A time comes in your life when you finally get it...when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out...ENOUGH!Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on.
Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum,you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes.
This is your awakening.
You realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change,or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.
You realize that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you... and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are... and that's OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself... and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you - or didn't do for you - and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that everything isn't always about you.
So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself... and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties... and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.
You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era,but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don't know everything, it's not your job to save the world and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.
You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.
You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it's OK to risk asking for help.
You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people... and you learn not to always take it personally.
You learn that nobody's punishing you and everything isn't always somebody's fault. It's just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart's desire.
You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.
Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.

I'm Back!

it's almost a year since my last posts, now i'm back, with new poems and stories! :) CIAO!