Love or Just Pitty?!? - gosh... result of an insomnia attack

hmmm... i've known lots of people who reconciled with their gf/bf, but i'm definetely sure that some of them are just out of awa... (sobbing?!?) i don't mean to sound mean, but, don't you think it's unfair that we consider reconcilling with our x just because they made some nasty, humilating, pa-awa and so on out of them selves? don't get me wrong i know relationships consist of different things/feelings like care, pitty and etc. but we commit ourselves into relationships because we love the person who offers it. if the love is gone (for my own opinion) what's the reason to keep it going? i'm not expert in relationships, i've been through it several times... and yet i ended up a failure to it, but... my point here is why bother yourself getting back with your x if you just feel sorry for what is happening to him/her but deep inside of you... you don't have the right love to be his/her bf/gf again addittion to it... you want to move on already..., it is the person who is responsible for his/her own action, if you can move on why doesn't he/she can? well... if you think that the acceptance wasn't in his/her head yet... maybe you still have a part there, maybe your showing to much attetion to him/her... yah know like the old things... but no string attach, your giving him/her more reason not to move on... ahhh what a heck... sorry if somebody can relate... honestly it just pop out of my mind... i can't sleep yet... INSOMNIA